I will admit that it has been a considerable thing for me to take the next step from the school I was raised at and have run for eight years, and the question my family and I have had to consider chiefly is ‘when is the right time to take on the next adventure’. When is the right time to take that Prufrockian ‘dare’? I think the mid-20th century American novelist Richard Yates, in his 1961 novel Revolutionary Road, describes well the (very natural) human need to have deterministic control of our lives:
Our ability to measure and apportion time affords an almost endless source of comfort. “Synchronise watches at oh six hundred” says the infantry captain, and each of his huddled lieutenants finds respite from fear in the act of bringing [those] two tiny pointers into jeweled alignment while tons of heavy artillery go fluttering overhead: the prosaic, civilian-looking dial of the watch has restored, however briefly, an illusion of personal control. Good, it counsels, looking tidily up from the hairs and veins of each terribly vulnerable wrist; fine: so far, everything’s happening right on time.
The notion that “everything’s happening right on time” can be important to many. Its mercurial antithesis can be exciting as well. Of course, we crave the ‘illusion of personal control’ but my family’s experience has been that transformational opportunities can leap from delightfully unexpected corners.